I’ve (f24) been talking to this guy (m23) for about a month. We would talk on the phone daily and have intense contact everyday. We didnt meet until after about 2.5 weeks which I thought was a bit strange, even though I initiated meeting before that aswell.
Our first date was a bit strange, he said we would go have dinner but we just got ice cream. After that we went to his place and he tried to have sex with me. I was clear with that I wasnt going to do that on the first date. He said he would never force anything.
When I came home I just felt like something was off. But he texted me asking if I was okay and I reassured him, but also saying that I like him and im looking for something serious, if he’s not doing the same maybe we shouldn’t continue talking. He made it very clear that having sex soon is absolutely not something that changes his views on the girl, he still wants to get to know me and continue talking and would never pressure me to do anything and encouraged me to always speak up if I felt some type of way. Our contact remained the same and he was very loving very day, it almost started to feel like a relationship. We went on 2 more dates and on the third one we ended up having sex. I still felt like it was to early for me personally but it just happened and I felt right in the moment.
Immediately after I could feel the shift. He was cold and started hinting that its time to go home. The next day texting was minimal and no call, even though we used to everyday. I called him later in the evening asking if hes alright and he got annoyed that I asked, saying he just got a lot with work and ended the call quickly. The day after that was the same and I called again, know being more honest saying that I felt something has been off since we had sex.
He didnt answer my question, just asking what I needed to stop feeling this way. I told him I dont want to force him to do anything but I would appreciate if he told me when he was feeling off bc work or other stuff, so I know its not me. He became angry, asking why I was so insecure and needing so much from him. He said that he needs to remind me that hes not my man. And that he dont want to go through stuff like this again and that he never has had any issues before in a talking stage. He said that me being in 2 relationships before, I should know better. After that he didnt want to talk and ended the call quick.
The next day (this was yesterday) he called me and I got hopeful. But he acted like nothing happened and we had a awkward call, I was asking all the questions and he eneded he call quickly aswell.
I feel heartbroken, this man really reassured me that he wouldn’t do something like this. I feel really naive but also angry, since I made it very clear about what I want. But I don’t understand why he doesn’t end contact with me? Is he just stringing me along to make me be the one that ends it?

Originally posted by u/feisty-art9149 in TrueOffMyChest on March 19th, updated as an edit undated.
Trigger Warning: Child neglect, mentions of mental health struggles and self harm
Original post
My mother hates me for telling my sister the truth.
I want to preface this with an apology if it’s all over the place. There’s so much information to sort through and decide what does or doesn’t have a place here. I will reply to what I can and make edits for any common questions/ remarks.
So a little (or a lot) of background is required for this to make any sense. Many years ago my mother had an affair that completely blew up our family. I suppose the affair was the lesser issue, but rather all her other actions that screwed many of us over. For context I was 10, my younger sister was 7/8 and my older sister almost 14- all female.
To start with, in the years prior, my mother had taken out tens of thousands of dollars in loans and credit cards in my dads name, of which he was never aware of. Ignorant, absolutely, but she had always managed all finances while a SAHM. She also managed to make 5 years of GST payments disappear from the business account, for which dad was then charged with two charges (around 100K in fines) of tax evasion on top of the missed payments.
All three of us kids had a bank account set up from young, which our dad had added to so that we would be in a positive position when we were older- for University, or a house deposit, whatever it was that we desired. Being saving orientated even as a kid, I had chosen to put 100% of any money earnt through chores or gifted for birthdays into the account. At 14 when I began working and gained access to net banking I realised mum had drained my account, less $50… only my account.
If that wasn’t enough, her own mother had stored a sum of money in my parents safe that was intended for her funeral. My mother took every last dollar and refused to pay it back- my dad paid it back with interest when he found out.
Due to the tricky financial situation, dad had to travel for work, wherever the trade was needed in that moment. Typically he would leave in the early hours of Monday morning and return on Saturday afternoon. In this time my mother felt it appropriate to leave us at home so that she could visit the affair partner, usually not coming home for days at a time. Nobody knew- we had no carers or access to resource as we lived a 20 minute drive to the nearest town/stores.
This went on for a few weeks before my mum (sometimes) contacted our cousin to come stay with us while she was out… To this day I believe that only happened because the other guy figure out what was going on. Due to timing of people coming and going our dad didn’t know any of this happened to until months later. I kept quiet because I knew he couldn’t afford to stay home.
All this said- I stepped into the parent role. My little sister was kept in the dark as much as possible, I did my best to maintain her same routine so that she felt as little impact as possible. Obviously she suffered, to the point of requesting to sleep in my bed every night for a year, but it seems that she doesn’t remember any of the shitty things that happened back then.
My older sister was very mentally ill, where I had to medicate her each morning and conduct daily body and room checks. Those who know will get what I’m suggesting… To the best of my knowledge our little sister never saw any of this- I didn’t and don’t believe those are subject such little eyes should have to witness. The older sister was also really ashamed and has asked to keep this situation away from the youngest as she had a habit of speaking without realising or knowing the potential damage.
As much as I hated the responsibility, cooking, cleaning, hiding the families dirty laundry; I was also very aware that what was happening wasn’t okay. That if I couldn’t keep it together and matters hidden, that authorities would become involved. Those times were scary but the idea of not having access to and control over what happened to me or my siblings felt like it would be worse.
These are only the first things that come to mind but the details aren’t exactly the point of this post.
Anyway, I guess my younger sister’s soon to be in laws have asked some questions, of which my sister doesn’t have the ability to answer. I would suggest she asked our mother first but the queries would have been shut down. I know she feels guilty, knows that she screwed up, and frankly I hope she never forgives herself for it.
So, little sister came to me and for the first time in 15 years I was willing to give her the answers she was looking for. I’ve always been vague, not wanting to cause her pain, but I’ve started feeling guilty in recent years for not treating her as enough of an adult to make her own decisions. After a loooot of therapy, I have realised that I don’t have to be their parent anymore. My sister cried, I cried, and she apologised for assumption made and words said because she didn’t know any better in the past. She needs and wants time to process a whole lot of information that’s entirely new to her, that has quite literally flipped the way she has perceived many people over the years.
Anywho… she isn’t speaking to our mother right now and that’s where it becomes my problem, I guess. She called me, blowing up, claiming I’ve ruined her relationship with her daughter. That I’m out to get her, resentful without cause and need to stop living in the past. But I don’t see how me being honest about her actions is my fault? Could I have filtered details? Maybe. But I don’t understand why I should have to hold onto the pressure of keeping her shortcomings secret. Maybe it’s time to grow up and pay for the consequences of your actions….
Edit: to add genders.
In the comments:
She’s never taken any responsibility, only made excuses. My favourite was the one for her leaving us to care for ourselves- “you all made it clear you didn’t want to spend time with me”.
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I feel like she thought she’d gotten away with it at this point and that’s why she’s mad. To be honest I only told my sister for selfish reasons… we’ve only in recent years developed a close relationship and I didn’t want to lose that if she became mad at me for not telling her anything. I know there was always a layer of resentment towards me for “thinking I was the boss of her”. She needed somebody to be mad at and at the time I was okay with that person being me.
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Children (and young adults) get mad at the people it is safe to be mad at. It sounds like you took that anger to give her a safe space and a safe person. Now that she's of an age where she is old enough to hear the truth, where it's safe for her to be angry at your mom without risking breaking your family apart, you've given her the truth. That's quite heroic. I hope you find the peace and space to have a life of your own free from your mother's negligent abuse. You've certainly more than earned it.

OP: I never considered the aspect of somebody needing to be safe to be mad at them. That puts a lot into perspective… thank you. Tbh my mother has no influence over my life or feelings. I stopped regarding her as a parental figure long ago so her opinion of me, someone she really had no part in moulding, means nothing. Don’t get me wrong, I do not place the blame for all wrong doings exclusively on her, but she was certainly the catalyst for most of the difficult seasons. Every action or inaction I’ve ever made has been a decision to protect the other people she hurt which only served to protect her from backlash and I think it’s time she faced up.
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In some ways I think caring for them was all that kept me sane. I was so busy and exhausted by the day to day motions that I didn’t have time to reflect on my own feelings or the situation as a whole. Full survival mode I suppose. I appreciate that, a lot. I tried my best… in hindsight doing for them what I probably needed myself.
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She was cut out for a very long time. The stolen money (from myself) was the absolute last straw which resulted in me going no contact for about 5 years. Part of me thinks she was glad for that, too, because I’d threatened to press charges against the mystery thief if she didn’t fess up. But because of my sisters age, and her eventually choosing to live with mum, I felt compelled to be civil because I missed my sister. I live 4 hours from my hometown now, so maintaining a healthy distance is really quite easy.
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Curious about your dad, how is he doing rn? After knowing the truth, did your younger sister go living with your dad? And did he divorce your mother? And all that money she stole, what was she doing with that money? Did you get any of your money back?

OP: He’s doing really good, but of course had had a long time to pick up the pieces. In his 50s and still working 6 days a week- not because he needs to but because he’s never known anything else. His parents were immigrants so it was quite literally bred into him.
She’s 22 now and living with her partner. She and dad never had a strained relationship but after years of living exclusively with him, decided to spend the next few years with mum. Never any bad blood on either end where she’s concerned. They did divorce long ago, and as much as I find it strange, they still have a relatively positive relationship.
The money…. Literally who knows. Never saw a cent returned though! Dad didn’t know she stole from me until 6 ish years ago. Early on he was struggling and I knew he’d try to put the money back if I told him. He knew something had happened for me not to talk to my mother all those years but I hadn’t told him and she sure wasn’t going to.
Recently my husband and I built our first home and he was insistent on cutting “trade swaps” to save money which I strongly feel was his way of repaying her debt to me. He’s a great dad… has his flaws as every human does, but every step he’s taken has been with the intention of his kids not having to want for things as he and his siblings did.
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I only tolerated her in the past to keep my sister close- I don’t trust our mother to not hurt her in the process of getting what she wants. The partners family aren’t stupid and while they will hand out finance they will never relinquish control of it. If they suspect somebody of having ill intent, they’re cut out of all their lives. Mums husband does pretty well for himself and pays all their living expenses, but knowing her past will not give her unbridled access so she has to work to support her spending habit which is probably where the jealousy comes in.
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I used to tell my sister that I “don’t really know”, “can’t remember”, or “have only heard snippets of the story”, so not necessarily a lie but definitely deceit by omission.
1st Update:
Aaaand now she’s resorted to posting on Facebook, claiming that one of her “ingrates are spreading rumours to ruin her” JFC 🤦🏼‍♀️ I don’t even have Facebook, so not really sure what she’s trying to achieve in doing this, but an old family friend called my dad to ask what’s going on. Also, I’m speaking to nobody about the situation? I don’t even live in our hometown!!! If nothing else- she has nothing for me to ruin. No way I’m engaging or sinking to her level but seriously… what a waste of a person. Now the parents are fighting, she’s fighting with her current husband and shit is all around just getting messy. She thinks she’s making people feel sorry for her but mostly she just looks pathetic, if you ask me.
Update 2:
Turns out I REALLY don’t need to sink to her level, that’s been taken care of while I sleep. I guess mums privacy settings aren’t great and that’s working against her. The vague ‘woe is me’ post has been shared by three family members/ friends with a single, but far less cryptic, one liner. I’m told: “oh you mean the ingrate that raised your kids?”, “Should she be more grateful for your affair or the complete and utter abandonment of your three kids” and my absolute favourite (from my granny) “rot in hell you lying thieving bitch”
Reminder, DO NOT comment on the original posts or contact the original poster. I am not the original poster. This is a repost.

I am 21 with social anxiety disorder. It’s gotten really severe in the past year. Alright this is kind of embarrassing but:
I started seeing a new therapist like 2 months ago bc my last one no longer worked for the organization.
it’s been okay but a few things have irked me. One being that she seems to not believe me when I say I don’t have friends.
One of our first convos went like this:
“Do you have any friends”
“No unfortunately”
“Really?🧐”
“yeah, I definitely want some though and want to work on that”
“You don’t have any friends?” (In a “you can’t be serious” tone)
“Uh yeah I don’t have any friends. I know some people say they don’t but they’ll actually have a lot but I really don’t have any haha” (I felt weird by this pointt but dismissed this)
I can tell she didn’t believe me even after that last comment.
Since then I’ve noticed little comments like “(words) since you say you don’t have any friends”. Her saying “say” specifically made me question if she was still doubting me- but since I don’t want to look too deep into something that was probably in my head I totally brushed these off.
But at our last session there was one point in which she said “well (words) since you claim to have no friends”.
Tf? Why would I lie about having no friends? Like it’s embarrassing to admit. The use of the word “claim” and the fact that she seemed to doubt my statements again seriously bothered me - I didn’t say anything though, I don’t want to make something out of nothing if I’m just looking to deep into it.
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Another thing to mention, I sometimes see her giggle as our sessions end. At first I found it funny cuz in my head I was like lol im awkward, but it’s happened other times and she did it again our last session but more than usual - like, once we said “bye” she started quietly giggling to herself multiple times before she could end the zoom call. But again, I don’t want to make something out of nothing so I’ve tried to brush this aside.
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One of my issues is that I can’t tell when people are being rude to me, even when they have been in the past (I know bc I’d get confirmation from others or they eventually became rude to an obvious extent), so I tell myself it’s nothing if I ever feel like this. But I’m getting weird vibes.
Here was another convo, I think this one is just me overthinking though, tell me what you think:
We were talking about me getting nervous in a group at school that asked me to join their study group and the grocery store.
I had already talked about how I didn’t know how to greet the group last semester so I’d say hi to one of them and then stay silent, cause i didn’t know if I should say hi to each one,
And in reference to the grocery store I said: “Yeah when I go to the register at the grocery store with my parent I just stay silent the whole time and my parent will greet them. Since they already said hi to each other I don’t know what to do and I get super nervous”.
So she thought for a few seconds and said “Hmm, how do you think you’d feel as the cashier if a group didn’t speak to you”.
I thought about my answer and replied “To be honest I doubt I’d mind as the cashier, but I think in the school-group setting it might make them uncomfortable, since I see them everyday and there’s more of an expectation.”
So she said in a fast / seemingly annoyed tone “ Hm, yeah, that makes sense, cashiers are used to people treating them like they’re invisible (words)”
By the way - my last two jobs were as a cashier lmfao.
So then I said, “Well I was a cashier and I preferred when only one person from the group would say hi, it made me less nervous, which why I said that”
She replied “Ohhhh yeah that changes things.”
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Can you tell me what you think? Am I looking too much into it? I feel like I’m getting pent up resentment / annoyance but not saying anything in case it’s all in my head. Need some outside opinions and i don’t have the friends to ask (lol).

This is my very first reddit account ever, im an aethiest with spiritual beliefs but i openly take any and all interpretations- religious or not <3
Recently, about maybe 4-5 days ago, I had a dream where I died, was reincarnated, found myself alive again(somewhat), and given a date of my death.
In the beginning of the dream, im "dreaming" within it, it was like my normal dreams that averagely dont make sense- traveling with a think a couple of video characters in a jumble of version of a area I used to live. We climb a hill with a cliff edge, and eat mushrooms, and then i "woke up". It was a sudden change but u was suddenly a deer, large anltlers at the edge of a forest, day time, light down on me, a lake. I was eating grass on this small land unattached from the forest besides me by a stream of water before a 2 more deer — who i remembered to be family members — came to get me.
Like the first half, it was quickly done, and it suddenly came to me that I had died, but I was in my body again rather than a deer's. I could go through my phone, and see what had happened, posts and comments on my death from about a year ago- stuff from my grandma, my ex, and im sure others, but thats the most I remembered. My partner suddenly walks inti my room, able to see me(Throughout the dream, who is actually able to interact with me varies which why i said i was somewhat alive bc at the same time i definitely wasnt). They got angry, saying id faked my death in the middle of me writing a note to different family members(including s/o) about how much i loved them and i was sorry. I tried to hug them but they pushed me away and suddenly was gone the next second. I skip to a part where im talking to my mom, obviously confused but we're both sat in the living room. She told me i died May 5th, 2023 meaning the dream was set in 2024(a yr later), i asked how, she told me i walked off a cliff while asleep(I dont actually sleep walk irl but it nods to the very very beginning of this long dream).
The dream ended around there after I spoke with my mom, waking up pretty pyched out because id never dreamed about death nor have I ever dreamed of being an animal or getting a specific date. I don't really know if there's much of a meaning behind it but id really like to know if anyone had any like, ideas of what it could mean?

I have Acer Nitro 5 AN515-55 and I have a popping audio problem ''only'' when you try to pause a going on sound or you wander around the sounds which is in a low hertz. Both speakers and the headphones gives the same result always and I already tried every kind of driver stuff. So I end up with it is a hardware issue. I also have an audio interface named as UMC22 and it doesnt matter if I plug it to laptop or not, plug headphones into it or directly to the laptop it just doesnt matter. I re-install the Windows 10 two times and nothing changes. What should I do ? Can I use my audio interface to solve this issue or not ? What do you think the problem is ? Thanks.

I am 21 with social anxiety disorder. It’s gotten really severe in the past year. Alright this is kind of embarrassing but:
I started seeing a new therapist like 2 months ago bc my last one no longer worked for the organization.
it’s been okay but a few things have irked me. One being that she seems to not believe me when I say I don’t have friends.
One of our first convos went like this:
“Do you have any friends”
“No unfortunately”
“Really?🧐”
“yeah, I definitely want some though and want to work on that”
“You don’t have any friends?” (In a “you can’t be serious” tone)
“Uh yeah I don’t have any friends. I know some people say they don’t but they’ll actually have a lot but I really don’t have any haha” (I felt weird by this pointt but dismissed this)
I can tell she didn’t believe me even after that last comment.
Since then I’ve noticed little comments like “(words) since you say you don’t have any friends”. Her saying “say” specifically made me question if she was still doubting me- but since I don’t want to look too deep into something that was probably in my head I totally brushed these off.
But at our last session there was one point in which she said “well (words) since you claim to have no friends”.
Tf? Why would I lie about having no friends? Like it’s embarrassing to admit. The use of the word “claim” and the fact that she seemed to doubt my statements again seriously bothered me - I didn’t say anything though, I don’t want to make something out of nothing if I’m just looking to deep into it.
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Another thing to mention, I sometimes see her giggle as our sessions end. At first I found it funny cuz in my head I was like lol im awkward, but it’s happened other times and she did it again our last session but more than usual - like, once we said “bye” she started quietly giggling to herself multiple times before she could end the zoom call. But again, I don’t want to make something out of nothing so I’ve tried to brush this aside.
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One of my issues is that I can’t tell when people are being rude to me, even when they have been in the past (I know bc I’d get confirmation from others or they eventually became rude to an obvious extent), so I tell myself it’s nothing if I ever feel like this. But I’m getting weird vibes.
Here was another convo, I think this one is just me overthinking though, tell me what you think:
We were talking about me getting nervous in a group at school that asked me to join their study group and the grocery store.
I had already talked about how I didn’t know how to greet the group last semester so I’d say hi to one of them and then stay silent, cause i didn’t know if I should say hi to each one,
And in reference to the grocery store I said: “Yeah when I go to the register at the grocery store with my parent I just stay silent the whole time and my parent will greet them. Since they already said hi to each other I don’t know what to do and I get super nervous”.
So she thought for a few seconds and said “Hmm, how do you think you’d feel as the cashier if a group didn’t speak to you”.
I thought about my answer and replied “To be honest I doubt I’d mind as the cashier, but I think in the school-group setting it might make them uncomfortable, since I see them everyday and there’s more of an expectation.”
So she said in a fast / seemingly annoyed tone “ Hm, yeah, that makes sense, cashiers are used to people treating them like they’re invisible (words)”
By the way - my last two jobs were as a cashier lmfao.
So then I said, “Well I was a cashier and I preferred when only one person from the group would say hi, it made me less nervous, which why I said that”
She replied “Ohhhh yeah that changes things.”
———
Can you tell me what you think? Am I looking too much into it? I feel like I’m getting pent up resentment / annoyance but not saying anything in case it’s all in my head. Need some outside opinions and i don’t have the friends to ask (lol).

And that is… keep Poe and Finn together after the TIE Fighter crash.
If you don’t change anything else major in any of the three sequels, it still improves them by a good deal. Why?

1. It allows the main trio to ACTUALLY FEEL LIKE A TRIO by keeping them together for most of the first movie
2. You remove the pointless Poe death fakeout that’s probably the universally least liked part of TFA
3. You can now keep the “Millennium Falcon is a piece of junk” joke without betraying Rey’s character (as a student of history, and a scavenger, Rey would absolutely know what the Falcon looks like). Now instead Rey can suggest it, Poe can shoot it down (“We’re not taking a 50 year old Corellian Freighter”), and then Rey can have an “I told you so” moment and lean more into her history/tech nerd persona
4. Poe would obviously pilot them off of Jakku which means Rey doesn’t need to be a pilot which removes one of her ultra competent traits that annoys the people who call her a “Mary Sue.” She can still serve as copilot though so we establish that she at least knows some sort of flying for later, she just won’t be an ace.
5. Poe showing up in the X-Wing later makes more sense. Now he’s with them all the way until Takodana, at which point he can get briefly separated, probably by having a Resistance contact escort him to their local base but we can play it like a cliffhanger, and then show back up in the fighter. No more having them coincidentally end up on the same planet.

Thoughts?

Context: My girlfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. We moved in together and overall have had a really happy relationship save for one incident last year where she wouldn’t let me see my friends who had organised a birthday party for me.
Story: so we are sitting at home both playing PlayStation when I get a message from my mate asking if I wanted to go with him to the local sporting game (AFL). I ask my girlfriend if it’s ok if I go or if she’d rather me stay home and spend some time with her watching movies or something like that. Her response was “it’s up to you, you can choose”
Seeing as I hadn’t seen my mate in over 6 months and hadn’t gone to watch a game in 2 years I thought “what the hell, might be nice” so I said yes and agreed to meet him there.
This is where shit hits the fan.
She then proceeds to get mad, lock herself in our bedroom with the car keys so I can’t access it. I thought she was just being pouty and would come out so I decided to have a shower and clean up. While I was in the shower she took all my clothes from the dry line, threw them into the spare bedroom and locked it which meant I had no clothes to go out in. After this she is blasting music with things like “men ain’t shit” in it to which I had a laugh because it’s just personally funny to me. As the time I was supposed to be leaving approaches I’m getting more and more mad that she won’t let me get dressed and keeps saying I made a choice and to leave and go to the game.
I ended up cancelling and my friend took another friend while I sat on the lounge honestly a little devestated. Once she knew the game had started she finally opened the door. At which point I offered to take her to lunch (if I couldn’t see it live I thought I could at least watch it on tv while still spending time with her) to which she responded no.
I then asked her why who wanted to see my friends there was always some issue or things we “needed” to do first which would make me late, but when she wanted to see her friends I would happily take her, even if it meant being a few minutes late for work or school.
Obviously bringing this up just made her more angry and so she kicked me out of the bedroom again.
So here I am, sitting on the couch, typing this out instead of hanging with my friend I haven’t seen for 6 months.
AITA?

Sex: Male
Age: 28 months
Location: England
No medication
No known illnesses.
Fully up-to-date with his Jabs
When My son had his 2 year review his ASQ score in Communication and problem sloving was lower than his other scores. His health visitor told us if things hadn't improved in 3 months we'd have an appointment with a specialist. I got a letter in the post today saying his appointment was for sometime in April.
He can say "No" and "Uh oh" but that's about it.
I feel so incredibly bad. Me and his mum have spent so much time trying with his speech, we've used picture boards, picture books, videos asking him what things are, saying words slowly to him and asking him to repeat them. I even play my guitar and sing to him. I've been doing that since he was born.
He knows what things are for example if I ask him where the cat is he points right at the cat or if I ask where mummy is he points directly at her.
We're both first time parents and fell pregnant right when the pandemic hit so I wasnt allowed to any appointments what so ever. I first heard his heartbeat via a phone call whilst sat on a bench in the rain. I was allowed to be there for his birth then 30 minuets after he was born I had to go home no questions asked. Every class we had booked was canceled so we went into this very blind.
My son is my world. He saved me. I love him with every fibre of my soul. He's such a happy little boy who brightens everyone's day who sees him.
Maybe I'm over reacting over this but I just feel rotten. Like every parents all we want is for our children to be happy and healthy.
I guess this is a long winded way of asking am I over reacting about this appointment?
Thank you.

hey guys,
i am about to splash cash on a RELIABLE good carry-on that will make me forget about carry-ons for the next many years.
one option is obviously briggs and riley ($550) because of the warranty BUT being in europe their smallest carry-on is bigger than some of the shitty airlines like ryanair size limit.
this has led me into the elite platinum 4-wheel travelpro ($350). i have no idea what to make of the warranty though. do you guys have any experience? if eg in 2 years the stones of a european plaza pavement break one of the wheels would they cover it for free like briggs and riley?
so far i had only 2-wheelers and nothing ever happened to them but it seems like with the 4-wheelers its just a matter of time before this happens, so im wondering whether i should just accept it and go for a cheaper 4-wheeler like the travelpro maxlite 5 ($150) the knowing i will just replace it everytime it breaks or go for a B&R even though it will limit the airlines.
oof long text hope you made it to the end
thanks!

To the first guy I've met in Grindr.
Hello Everyone ,
I'm 22(M) and still exploring my gender . I installed a dating App to explore. Sobrang picky ko kase sa guy , kaya wala ako nakakameet up. Take note lang , Hindi ko pa kaya makipag hook up kaya walang nangyare tsaka to be safe na din .
Halos 3 months na din ako naghahanap kaso wala pa din ako namemeet . (taas kase ng standard)
Then around 9 pm , I saw this jock guy . Malaki biceps , manly and cute. I chat him first and we vibes naman hanggang sa naginvite sya to hang out.
Akala ko ighoghost na nya ako when we exchanged our pics . I am twink , sakto lang at hindi ganun kapogi.
A normal culture sa grindr , especially kung Jock guy ka tas pag twink ka hindi ka nila eentertain. Mostly kase prefer nila Manly to manly , Macho to macho.
Around 1 am , pumunta ako sa place nya . Kinakabahan ako kase FIRST MEET UP AT MADALING ARAW NA. (kalandian kase )
Tapos pagkadating ko sa place nya sabi ko pahinge tubig kase kinakabahan talaga ako. Sabi nya wag daw ako kabahan kase safe naman daw sya .
Then he clarified naman na meet up lang and walang mangyayare. We talked about love , life and career. Goods naman sya kausap . Actually , kaklase ko yung Gym crush nya . Kaya nag installed sya ng grindr hoping na makikita nya dun kaklase ko pero ako nakita nya.
Super private person si koya , Even name , age and personal info hindi nya sinasabi which is okey naman kase stranger. So hindi din ako nagsabi ng personal info ko.
Ang common ground lang namin is Same kami ng School pero graduate na sya.
Noong wala na kami mapagusapan , I asked kung pede ba mag cuddle . Then we cuddle . I squished his biceps , chest and nipples. HAHAHAHAHA. Tapos yung head ko nasa biceps nya , hindi ko masyado wineeweight yung head ko kase baka mabigatan sya. ayunn ngalay ang neck .
Tapos It's already 5: 30 am na , Sabi nya " Uuwe boyfriend ko ng 6 am . Dapat nakauwe ka na . " Pero I doubt na may boyfriend sya kasee hindi nga sya makamovee on sa nya. Reason nya lang yun para umalis ako ng maaga kasee gigising na mga kasama nya sa boarding house.
Anyways, Umuwe akong malungkot kase I don't even know his Name and the fact na hanggang dun na lang kami. Maybe hindi nya ako bet pero i appreciate the invite naman.
It was nice to meet you K ( his username in Grindr)
Tapos , kinabukasan di na sya nichat or nagparamdam kase nahurt talaga ako dun sa sinabi nya na " Uuwe boyfriend ko ng 6 am . Dapat nakauwe ka na . "
Tapos nagdeactivate na sya ng profile.Tapos nagdeactivate na din ako and uninstall.
After four months , Nag apply ako ng Cabin Crew . Nagbibinge watch ako ng mga tips about sa proceess and interview sa Tiktok. After all , hindi pa din ako nakapasa ngayon . Not now but soon !!!!!!
Tapos today , nagsscroll ako ng tiktok . Napansin ko parang familiar yung face at photo . Then nagview ako ng profile , TANGINA SYA NGA YUNG NAKAMEET UP KO SA GRINDR. and wala syang boyfriend guyss hahahahhahah And Cabin Crew din sya .
I'm so happy na alam ko na name nya.
Pero di na kita guguluhin pa at i chachat sa tiktok. I think its better that we parted ways .
Seee you na lang wheen I seee you. Siguro kung Cabin Crew na lang ako magpapakilala ulit sayo .
MABUHAY ! This is Liam Van Kirk . Enjoy your Life . Laban lang .
The End ?

I am 21 with social anxiety disorder. It’s gotten really severe in the past year. Alright this is kind of embarrassing but:
I started seeing a new therapist like 2 months ago bc my last one no longer worked for the organization.
it’s been okay but a few things have irked me. One being that she seems to not believe me when I say I don’t have friends.
One of our first convos went like this:
“Do you have any friends”
“No unfortunately”
“Really?🧐”
“yeah, I definitely want some though and want to work on that”
“You don’t have any friends?” (In a “you can’t be serious” tone)
“Uh yeah I don’t have any friends. I know some people say they don’t but they’ll actually have a lot but I really don’t have any haha” (I felt weird by this pointt but dismissed this)
I can tell she didn’t believe me even after that last comment.
Since then I’ve noticed little comments like “(words) since you say you don’t have any friends”. Her saying “say” specifically made me question if she was still doubting me- but since I don’t want to look too deep into something that was probably in my head I totally brushed these off.
But at our last session there was one point in which she said “well (words) since you claim to have no friends”.
Tf? Why would I lie about having no friends? Like it’s embarrassing to admit. The use of the word “claim” and the fact that she seemed to doubt my statements again seriously bothered me - I didn’t say anything though, I don’t want to make something out of nothing if I’m just looking to deep into it.
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Another thing to mention, I sometimes see her giggle as our sessions end. At first I found it funny cuz in my head I was like lol im awkward, but it’s happened other times and she did it again our last session but more than usual - like, once we said “bye” she started quietly giggling to herself multiple times before she could end the zoom call. But again, I don’t want to make something out of nothing so I’ve tried to brush this aside.
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One of my issues is that I can’t tell when people are being rude to me, even when they have been in the past (I know bc I’d get confirmation from others or they eventually became rude to an obvious extent), so I tell myself it’s nothing if I ever feel like this. But I’m getting weird vibes.
Here was another convo, I think this one is just me overthinking though, tell me what you think:
We were talking about me getting nervous in a group at school that asked me to join their study group and the grocery store.
I had already talked about how I didn’t know how to greet the group last semester so I’d say hi to one of them and then stay silent, cause i didn’t know if I should say hi to each one,
And in reference to the grocery store I said: “Yeah when I go to the register at the grocery store with my parent I just stay silent the whole time and my parent will greet them. Since they already said hi to each other I don’t know what to do and I get super nervous”.
So she thought for a few seconds and said “Hmm, how do you think you’d feel as the cashier if a group didn’t speak to you”.
I thought about my answer and replied “To be honest I doubt I’d mind as the cashier, but I think in the school-group setting it might make them uncomfortable, since I see them everyday and there’s more of an expectation.”
So she said in a fast / seemingly annoyed tone “ Hm, yeah, that makes sense, cashiers are used to people treating them like they’re invisible (words)”
By the way - my last two jobs were as a cashier lmfao.
So then I said, “Well I was a cashier and I preferred when only one person from the group would say hi, it made me less nervous, which why I said that”
She replied “Ohhhh yeah that changes things.”
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Can you tell me what you think? Am I looking too much into it? I feel like I’m getting pent up resentment / annoyance but not saying anything in case it’s all in my head. Need some outside opinions and i don’t have the friends to ask (lol).

Events: Year 0 - 3 humans came out of their cave in Payapa Isla after most of them died from the current ice age and form the "Nikang Kingdom". Year 2 - The first campfire was made creating the Malikha culture. At the same time one of them was trying to hunt a fish but he drowned the human then wake up and finds himself on Tuyong Isla he then formed the Manoba Tribe which has the goal of reuniting with the Nikang Kingdom Year 4 - A campfire was made in Manoba Tribe forming the Noli Culture Year 5-37 - Both thrive in their own Island Year 38 - The first boat was made on Nikang Kingdom that was able to pass the ice discovering the Santo Bandala Isla causing them to plan a ship that can settle to the island as they only have fishing boats Year 48 - Meanwhile the Manoba Tribe has no knowledge or resources to build one causing them to starve Year 68 - The death of Avid happened causing an event where everytime theres a 68 in a year they will give 50% of what they have to the statue of Avid every week Year 72 - The last person on Manoba Tribe has starve to death bringing the Manoba Tribe to an end Year 100 - The Nikang Kingdom has theorized how the world was made creating the Malikha Mythology

So here's the back story: I've been with my girlfriend for a bit over half a year. It was from the beginning a LDR, we see each other once a month for a weekend or maybe a bit longer, depending on our schedule. In the beginning everything was perfect but back in december her dad passed away and since then we've been fighting more than I think we should. She is Italian but lives in the UK. Because of unlucky cirumstances she will have to move out of her flat in 3 weeks and it is very unlikely that she will be able to find a new place in time, which means she will stay with her family in Italy until she finds a new place. During this period (where she will be in Italy), we planned to see each other for a week. Now we were discussing on a videocall if I should come to Italy or she should come to me (Germany). I said that I generally don't have a problem with coming to Italy but that "I am a bit concerned that we won't have time to ourselfs". Those where the exact words I used. At this point she interrupted me and started to almost yell at me. She said something like that I should not create problems where there are none and that she doesn't bother me with her problems and that I should propose solutions instead of stating problems. Also how I could even think such an absurd thing. To which I calmly said that all I want is that we have a night or two to ourselfs where we go out for a nice dinner or something like that and that I was concerned about it because we didn't have that last time. She agreed with me and said that she wants alone time as well. For me it could have ended there but she kept talking to me in a very agressive tone and basically repeated the same accusations over and over again, adding that my behaviour is "not normal", no matter what I said. After an hour of this I said that I see no point in discussing this any further for now and we agreed that we will speak again tomorrow.
I raised my concerns because the last time we were with her family we did something every day and night either with her friends or family. I don't have a problem with them at all, in fact I think they are lovely people and I really enjoy spending time with them. I still want some alone time with my girlfriend though. Last time I spent most of my time there listening to people speaking Italian (which I don't understand) and when we came home she was tired and we either went straight to bed or she wanted to watch TV where she fell asleep immediatly. Not exactly my idea of quality time. I understand that my gf has limited time in Italy and that she wants to spend some time with family and friends and I have no problem with that whatsoever. My intentions from the beginning where just to make sure that we would also have an evening with just the two of us.
TL;DR: My long distance relationship girlfriend and I are planning to meet at her families home town. I said that I'm worried we won't have time for ourselfs, because this is what happened last time. She immediatly got super mad at me to the point where it gotten impossible to talk with her.
Am I wrong about this? Where my words so inappropriate that she had a reasion to get mad at me? If so, how could I have approached this differently to still raise my concerns but without offending her? Or should I not have raised this at all? I am trying really hard to make sure that I stay calm and don't get personal in our fights and I think overall I am very sucessfull with that. This doesn't help to keep her calm though, any ideas what I can do to keep her calm?

"I watch as my wife sends me an air kiss, and I hear two more "arrivals": a servicewoman with the call sign "Murka" died in front of her husband in the trenches near Bakhmut
A servicewoman with the call sign "Murka" — Tetyana Fesenko, who defended Ukraine side by side with her husband Volodymyr, died on the front lines. The defender, originally from Gostomel, was 30 years old. On February 24 last year, the family sent their daughter and grandmother abroad. They drew up a notarial power of attorney for her, so that in the event of the death of her parents, the grandmother could adopt the girl. Tatiana was killed by a shell in her lover's arms. Volodymyr carried his wife more than two kilometers to the evacuation point, but they could not save the woman. 8-year-old daughter Elizaveta already knows that mom is now forever her guardian angel... "On the last anniversary of the wedding, the wife wrote: "I wish that our family hearth never goes out"
— Tanya did not know her biological father, his stepfather Ivan replaced him, — the husband of the deceased, Volodymyr Fesenko, told "FACTS" . - My wife was a "toddler" from an early age - she loved to run with the boys to football, climb on the roofs, a smile never left her face. She was beautiful not only on the outside, but also on the inside. She drew beautifully, embroidered, wove carpets... Beloved adored the life that this cursed war took from her so quickly. Could I have ever thought that instead of giving my wife her favorite white chrysanthemums, I would buy them for the cemetery.
For some time, Tetyana studied in Vasylkiv, later she received an agricultural education. But the passion of her life was the furniture business, in which my comrade from the war, Andrii, involved my wife. He had his own business at that time. Tanya started with grinding, then I encouraged her to work with carving, restoration. I mainly worked on patina, which is a rather painstaking job that requires constant improvement. Tanya planned to expand the business with Andrii, but it did not work out. Neither Andrii nor my wife is anymore...

• How did you meet Tatyana?
  
• This is a fabulous story. It was 2013. I accidentally ended up at the wrong college reunion. And when Tanya began to ask who I was, I began to think that we knew each other well and studied together. You know, even then she seemed to me the most beautiful girl in the world! We walked until five in the morning, agreed to meet the next day. Tanya did not come. But a month later, I accidentally met her in a cafe at a friend's birthday party. He came up and said that she owed me a date and would definitely be mine. Tanya answered that no. But we parted ways. Everyone had their own life.
  

During the anti-terrorist operation, I served in the Chimera volunteer battalion. Somehow he found out from acquaintances that Tatyana was pregnant from someone else. It was painful, out of stupidity I married another woman, but we didn't have a family. Tanya also did not live with her father after the birth of her daughter. And in 2017, we met again. And then both realized that this was definitely fate. When we were standing in the RATS, I joked that my wife used to pray that she wouldn't be mine. But you cannot escape from fate. I was not at all scared that Tana had a child, I love Lizochka like my own. In our free time, we rested in nature, took our daughter to the sea, to the Carpathians, and we developed a wonderful relationship between our parents.
On our last wedding anniversary, my wife once again dedicated a touching post to me, which makes my heart sink: "My beloved man, my dear soul, Happy Anniversary! I wish that our family hearth burns more and more from the wood that we throw to it, and that we never let it go out! May our mutual love protect and protect us from evil spirits. You are forever the man of my dreams! Congratulations, my happiness!"
"Our daughter came up with Tanya's call sign - "Murka"
— How did you and your wife end up at war in 2022?
— I'll start with the fact that working in the furniture industry undermined my wife's health. It got to the point that at the end of 2021, she was appointed and underwent an operation: part of the uterus was removed and an expensive implant was installed, because we so dreamed of another child... On January 5, Tanya's stitches were removed.
On February 11, I was called to the military unit. When he came home, he told his wife that there would be a war. Tatyana immediately believed, we prepared a power of attorney in advance in case the relatives had to take Elizaveta away. My beloved told me even then that if I go to serve, then she will too...
*On February 24, the great war began, and the wife, still in a bandage, made the decision to fight without hesitation*. This is how our difficult journey began. Because we traveled as part of the 129th battalion of the Territorial Defense of Kyiv to Gostomel, Bucha, Moschun, Stari Petrivtsi, to the airfield in Zhulyany. Then we met my brothers, godfathers and called our unit "Black Swans", and there were very professional fighters. I was scouting. But there was a problem with "Murka" - such a call sign Tanya came up with, our daughter - because a man and a woman cannot serve together. However, the commander of the 244th battalion of the Territorial Defense of Kyiv, in which we were stationed recently, made concessions and gave us such an opportunity. "Murka" served as a gunner. After training, she was given a separate test: the entire unit was askedto lie on the ground, and Tanya had to release the entire tape of cartridges above our heads, at a distance of 50 centimeters above the ground.

• And how did you manage?
  
• Of course! Tanya did it. Moreover, her hand did not tremble even for a second. After that she said: "Can I have more?" I was proud of her. Tanya mastered PKM, I taught her to shoot with SGD, AK-74, PM, AGS. Later, they bought her an AR-15 rifle, which was her favorite weapon. In addition, I taught my wife about demining, she was good at mining. Recently, Tanya and other fighters formed a new group - "Pamoroks". Behind our backs, we were considered a suicide squad, because we performed extremely difficult tasks, starting from Kharkiv Oblast. Soon we were thrown into Donetsk region, near Bakhmut, where, in fact, my wife died.
  

I know it hurts a lot, but remember the events of that tragic March 5.

• *Tatyana was in the most protected trench, in front of him were three stumps and logs that covered him well. At first, two shells flew into the trench, one fell and did not explode, I was 5 meters from Tatyana, but I was very stunned. I raise my head, and my wife blows me an air kiss. And at this moment I hear two more "arrivals". I shout to my wife, I crawl... She didn't answer anymore. The trench where Tanya and her brother were was completely covered. His wife's eyes were still open, she was holding her helmet with her hands, a smile on her lips. I didn't see any blood, so I thought she was still alive. Mersch to the rescue! I took her in my arms and carried her two and a half kilometers to the evacuation site with the hope that my Tanyusha would be saved. But they didn't have time. Doctors declared death. Shrapnel entered the collarbone and completely pierced his wife. Her brother didn't survive either*...
  We buried Tatyana with honors on the Alley of Fame in Gostomel... After the funeral, I am engaged in Elizaveta's adoption. I want the child not to feel alone and abandoned after losing his mother. At first, the daughter cried a lot because of the death of her mother, now she knows that she is an angel. I promised myself that we will definitely win and I will always be there. But until I have all the documents, I must return to the front and take revenge for Tanya and other heroes.
  

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So basically I had started dating this cool girl back around the beginning of the pandemic and it was going really well at first, I had never been in a relationship before, and tbh I didn't ever feel alone when I went on trips or did social gatherings, but when I met her, I understood how nice it can be to be in sync with someone, to have so much in common and to be with what feels like a best friend, someone thats on the same wavelength. I was super nervous always but always tried to be polite and as courteous, to the point of overthinking even the most basic messages.
The thing was that she was a cool person but over the course of the relationship, there were things that would happen that would make me sad or depressed, no matter what it seemed like she only ever wanted to see each other every 2 weeks on average(I honestly wanted to see her at least once a week or if possible like twice a week despite that she lived an hour away, i'd put the effort back then), and even tho I put in so much effort, I never felt like I got that back, I always tried to check up on her with how was work or life, and I almost always get the same 1-3 word response. I don't think I ever really got checked up on.... I honestly never felt like a priority... even when it came to games(and boy do I love games myself), it felt I always came last, never 2nd,3rd, or 4th. She's a cool person but.... she wasn't a good partner, I would get forgotten about for holidays we had planned for like 4th of July or new years. It honestly still hurts alot, and I wish I could let that stuff go, but when you feel more alone than ever when you're in a relationship is a type of pain I never knew you could experience. It leaves you empty, hollow, like a piece of driftwood. but I always thought in my heart, with communication and effort I could make it work.... I did talk about it, much more lightly than how I actually felt so she wouldn't feel bad or I'd feel like I was trying to be emotionally manipulative.... I had hope that she'd change(I know change is a big thing, and not always right to ask of but I was wanting to improve the relationship sorry) and put more effort..... hope just gets you hurt sadly. The relationship lasted about 1.5 years, until one day we split because of a specific circumstance, its not related to anything prior, its just a crappy circumstance that happened to pop up I guess.
I was really really sad and depressed to say the least, I was sad that it felt like I lost someone that finally understood me, I thought it was the end and that i'd never see them again and that in a sense they'd be dead to me perceptually cause the odds of running into them ever again if we cut ties is next to 0. So I decided to ask if she wanted to stay friends and she said yes, idk if it was the right choice then but I was scared of losing someone I felt so close with, and that was on the same wavelength in terms of how to view life and others, how they were kind to people and never judged. I tried getting some space and it kind of didn't work out since we ran into each other at an event a few weeks after.
I then got asked if I wanted to go to a trip to a con a month later with her and her friends and I being of the mindset " Sure why not, lets see what happens if I say yes and go against every logical thought", The day of the trip arrives and I of course still feel weird being around her, I just get a feeling of un-ease considering we had been dating up until a few months prior but I just shove it deep down my gut and put on a face of everything is fine cause I don't want to make things awkward. It honestly wasn't too hard putting on a face considering I did that constantly during the relationship for the same reason, I am a dumb people pleaser and hate myself for it.
I honestly felt nervous around everyone cause they weren't my friends, they were hers, I didn't know them, I knew of them... I honestly felt alone even with my ex there, I was worried... and it then got Worse. To say the least most people on the trip were wanting to do some gummies for fun, and I personally had never done anything like gummies or smoking before and didn't really care for it and just wanted to live in the moment, but I then got offered/given by my ex one, and I just wasn't sure, but I was put on the spot everyone waiting on me, I kept thinking "yes or no, yes or no" over and over. I looked at her and thought, I mean I dated her for 1.5 years and we knew each other for almost 2, she knows me, she's looking out for me right??? I can trust her right?!?!... I eat the gummy, not knowing what the recommended dosage for a newby is. it was over 12 times the max amount recommended...... I. I was high for 2 full days, and it was fine at first for a few hours I thought, maybe, but when you wake up and the feeling just wouldn't shut off, and it would still linger no matter what I did or ate, I felt so scared, and even more alone, I wanted to cry so badly, but how do you cry when you're surrounded by strangers and worse, her friends, how do you not make things weird...... I bottled up everything until I went outside and just cried alone while calling a friend, I was just tired of the feeling of not feeling myself, of everything feeling delayed, and not to mention that I was honestly thinking of seeking out a prescribed set of gummies in the future to mellow out my anxiety in the future, to calm me down, but I felt that was robbed from me cause I feel like this terrible first experience gave me some type of ptsd, I get nervous whenever anyone talks about weed, and my heart races nowadays when I smell it. The trip was ruined from nearly the beginning and it just sucked having that happened. We came back from the trip, I didn't really contact her unless she contacted me for quite a few months, I felt my trust betrayed, I felt more anxious than ever, I felt like my feelings didn't matter. I know she's not a bad person but she did some stupid decisions, and one being overdosing me for some reason.
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I had decided to give myself some space, and it worked for a bit but knowing I still had contact with her still made me think of the lonely relationship, and the betrayal from the trip. about 7 months had passed and while we saw each other a few times, it was very sparse, up until one day we happened to go to a concert with some friends. Inside of venue before the opener even began the topic of the trip got brought up, she reminisced on how the trip was fun for her, and then and there she decided to casually say she was sorry to me about overdosing me, in front of our friends, in a very crowded public place.... I honestly had no words, and didn't give a reply, just stood there, hurt from the fact that it took 7+ months for an apology and it was done then and there.
From then on we hung out on occasion doing a events with friends and it was fun I won't deny but always at the back of my brain, I know I have feelings still, both from how happy I felt in the relationship and also the hurt and loneliness I felt from it, and then the trip incident.
It was then a few months after the "apology" she would then hype me up in front of friends about how much I took.... I had no response again, just staying quiet and keeping my thoughts to myself, feeling like I just got backhanded and made to feel like the apology meant even less. I swear she's a good kind person but. these actions, they just keep hurting me, and I keep wanting to bring this stuff up and talk about it, but there is never a good time, its been bottling up for so long now, its been over a year and I still have ptsd from the incident, I feel uneasy around her, and I just wish I could move one wihtout losing a friend, I just feel like no matter what I do I'm gonna end up sad and even more depressed. I have some amazing online friends who are a good support system, but in my town, I have only 1 good friend for support but we don't seem to always see eye to eye on quite a few things, and I did with my ex, and I just wish I had a better support system, had been in a healthy relationship, could be treated right, and not feel so scared and alone even after all this time. Idk if I should talk somehow or if I should just cut ties bluntly. It doesn't help that I already made plans with her for the next few months and its stuff thats already been paid for. I'm really sorry that this is so long, and am grateful if anyone bothered reading all this. I have these same thoughts going over and over in my head on an almost daily basis and I just can't stop them

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Pick 3 girls and 3 scenarios ( I don’t want to keep doing same scenarios with each guy). I will decide which girl and scenario I will do.

1. Sarah Graysun (22)
2. Loren Gray (20)
3. Paige Mackenzie(20)
4. Kendall Vertes(20)
5. Kate Marie(18)
6. Brooke Berry(21)
7. Dixie Damilio
8. Lauren Liska
9. KaylaVoid

A. You are dad friend (40+)
B. You are best friend’sDad (38+)
C. You are Ex bf's Dad (38+)
D. You are former HS teacher (40+)
E. You are guy I babysit for (30+)
F. You are dad’s boss (38+)
G. You are my ex bf (20-22)
H. You are best friend bf (20-22)
I. You are current college professor. (44+)
J. You are pastor (50+)
X. Naive and goody
Y. Slut and wild
Z. Willing but not wild
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I worked in a company for almost 5 years. I resigned in a rush and tried to retract it. But my employer did not accept it and told me to leave earlier than my notice period with payment. It has been 3 weeks since I left that company and I have been depressed about it. I worked incredibly hard for that company, helping all my managers. It is hurting me that they did not care about me after everything I have done for them. I want to find closure and move on from all of this. They still haven’t sent me the resignation acceptance letter confirming the end of employment. These past 3 weeks had been very depressing. Can I please have some advice?