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2023.06.01 16:48 _ChikoClouds_ Every fucking year it happens, like c'mon, can we have a peaceful Pride Month in this sub without chaos for once!? Everyone is all welcomed here
2023.06.01 16:48 Due-Key-4832 Driver told me not to tip him?
Hi all. I am a part time driver. I work nights after my fill time job a couple times a week but mainly on Friday and Saturday night when the clubs are busy.
I decided to call an Uber to work today because i woke to find one of my tires flat and didn't feel like putting my spare on for a 40 mile drive. I paid like $60 to get to work today and have plans to get home with a coworker and will get the tire fixed or replaced tonight.
I know Uber takes a huge portion of that for themselves so I was going to tip $10 in cash for his service. When we were pulling into the parking lot 45 min later I went to hand him the $10 bill and he told me he doesn't accept tips from people. I told him I'd do it in the app instead but he told me he gets support to refund all the tips he makes. I was stunned. I didn't know what to do for a good min so I asked him why he refused tips when Uber pay is trash.
His response to me was "Uber thinks they can walk all over us because they expect us to be tipped. If we work to remove the tips they will be forced to pay us more."
I live in Florida. Brevard county to be exact. I really didn't have the time to argue his point but I can't imagine in what reality where that would work. Especially in Florida. My only idea I could come up with is he is working a promotion where you're guaranteed a certain amount for x amount of trips and feels he would be paid better if he doesn't get tips. I also didn't know you could ask support to refund tips but if that was the case why not accept a cash tip. I get excited when a pax tips me over $3 which is rare enough as it is. Did I insult him. Or is he actually under the impression refusing tips will make Uber any better?
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2023.06.01 16:48 whirlpool00 Looking for partner for Percy Jackson and the Olympians related plot
Once again looking for new partners for an idea I have in mind. Recently, I’ve been binging the Percy Jackson books and I’ve been absolutely loving it!! As I’ve already finished the entire Percy Jackson and the Olympian series, but I’m still craving the rush of the adventure and the atmosphere in these books, I’m looking for a RP partner who’d be interested in coming up with a fun PJ related plot!
At the moment, I don’t have a specific plot in mind; I love brainstorming and discussing new ideas with my partners and I would love to elaborate on this idea together! Definitely looking for something that’s full of adventure, monsters, fights, difficult to navigate relationships between characters, and more! Big sucker for romance too, though I don’t want the entire plot to revolve around it. I want to explore the characters and their inner workings and their flaws. I like to write elaborate characters with interesting backgrounds and personalities that we can delve into during the RP. If you enjoy that as well, I think we might be a perfect match :)
- I am NOT looking to play canon characters, I solely use OC’s. I would prefer to play at least 2 characters each, though I’m open to anything. All my characters have realistic face claims and they are all 20+. I can write both males and females! - Open to writing 18+ scenes, though I don’t want it to become the sole focus of the RP. - Post length can range from one paragraph to 1500 words, depending on the other writer. I totally don’t mind starting up a RP with shorter posts, so don’t hesitate to contact me if you’d be interested but are not interested in longer posts.
- I myself am 21, and I would like my partner to be around somewhere in the 18-25 range (though you’re more than welcome to reach out if you’re a bit older and still think we could be a good match :) ) - I loove OOC chats, fangirling about our characters and making moodboards and playlists based on our characters and the RP. - Please keep in mind that although I’ve been speaking English for years, I am not a native speaker. I will sometimes make mistakes and writing posts in English can be a bit difficult for me at times, though I definitely try my best.
I think this is all you need to know. If you’d be interested, or you’d like to know more about what I have in mind, don’t hesitate to shoot me a message :)
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2023.06.01 16:47 SarahHowi113 Norethisterone
Hi all, I'm about to start my first IVF cycle, I'm due to start my injections on Saturday.
I was started on norethisterone for 10 days (18.05 - 25.05). My clinic said I should have a withdrawal bleed following this and not to start my injections if I don't bleed.
It's now nearing Thursday evening and I've not started bleeding. I've had period type cramps since Tuesday but no bleed.
I am getting increasingly anxious and stressed that I won't get this bleed and that I will have failed at the first step.
Has anyone had experience with norethisterone and can advise if it is normal not to have had this bleed yet?
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2023.06.01 16:47 sourthirty MISSING CAT NEAR SAN GABRIEL ST.
2023.06.01 16:47 christmasbaby1203 Thoughts?
The place was small and dimly lit. It smelled of sweat and alcohol. Needless to say, I felt rather out of place sitting in the corner with the hood of my cloak pulled up to cover my black hair. The barmaid comes over for the fifth time to ask if I want anything to drink. Ignoring her, I pull the cloak around me tighter so you can only see my bright green eyes. I just hope that no one in this place recognizes me. Sometimes life doesn’t go the way that you plan. For example, I can say that I never imagined that I would be sitting in a tavern just a few blocks away from Harper Castle, the home of the royal family. And I definitely didn’t think that I would be there at only 17 years old. But here I am, watching everyone around me to make sure that no one is going to recognize me. Just as I start to feel more comfortable with my surroundings, a man with greasy hair and a horribly squashed-looking face comes over to where I’m sitting. “What is a pretty little thing like you doin’ in a place like this?” he asks. “I do not think that is any of your concern,” I say. He doesn’t seem to like that answer, considering the wide smile turned into a deep scowl in less than a second. That is not the usual reaction I get from people. People usually adore me. Of course, I didn’t want anyone to recognize me, which seemed to be much easier than expected. This fact was made more evident when the man took a swing at me. Now, I’m not the most physically skilled person, but I somehow managed to duck the punch and avoid being hit. Next thing I know, I’m picking up the chair I was sitting in moments before and hitting the poor man over the head with it. He collapses instantly, and every eye in the place is on me. I laugh nervously, putting the chair back down. No one else tries to approach me as I sit back down. This was not going the way I hoped it would at all. But now I didn’t have to worry about people getting close enough to recognize me. No one wanted anything to do with me. Even the barmaid stayed as far away from me as she could. Sadly, the man did not take kindly to being knocked unconscious by a seventeen-year-old girl with a chair. So my troubles started up again when the man’s friends managed to wake him up. “Hold her still,” the man said to two others as he rubbed the top of his head. The man’s friends do as he says. The man pulls back his fist and I close my eyes. I’m mentally congratulating myself for managing to give the guy a lump on his head when I feel his fist connect with my stomach. The feeling is not pleasant, and I struggle to pull in any amount of air. My vision blurs from tears. “Aww. Is the poor little girl crying? I barely touched you,” the man says, laughing. I’m suddenly wishing I was back home. Nothing remotely near this happened. I look up to see the man pulling back to hit me again. I did not want to experience that again. I could tell that the men holding me were much stronger than I was, so instead of struggling to break free, I started to flail my legs. I had no plan except to not get hit again. My flailing resulted in the man not being able to get close enough to hit me again, so that was nice. However, I was getting tired which meant it was only a matter of time before he would be able to get a hit in. I was right. Within the next minute, I could not keep moving my legs, I was too tired. As soon as the man was able to get close enough to hit me, he did. I don’t know how many times he hit me, but when they let me go, I couldn’t stand on my own. My knees buckled and I fell to the floor clutching my stomach. Black spots dotted my blurry vision. It seemed like the world was a lot crueler than I had thought it was. I don’t know how long I sat on that floor. All I know is that I was left alone long enough to catch my breath and for my vision to clear. At this point, I was thinking that this day could not get any worse. Of course, I was wrong, as most people who think this are. I’m wiping the tears from my face when a pair of shoes enters my line of sight. This can’t be good. I look up to see the tavern owner looking down at me. He looks like a nice man, but at the moment he doesn’t seem so nice. “Get out of my tavern,” he says. “Why? I haven’t done anything wrong,” I reply. “You started a fight, and I won’t have people fighting in my establishment.” “But I didn’t start it, they did!” “Do I have to throw you out?” I scowl, I’m fine with leaving, but the three men should have to leave too. Standing, I push past the owner and walk out into the street. I have no idea what to do, I don’t even know why I left home. It was much safer there. I see some guards walking down the street and duck into an alleyway. Peeking around the corner, I see them showing the tavern owner a picture. “Yeah, I saw her. I don’t know where she went. I had to kick her out for fighting,” the man says. As if I didn’t have enough to worry about, I now had those guards looking for me. Not to mention, I stuck out like a sore thumb in this place. I was dressed too nicely to be from this part of town. That was probably why the pug-like man had come over to me in the bar. He probably thought that I was some rich merchant’s daughter. With my expertly tailored blouse and riding pants, it was a very justified assumption. Except for the fact that a merchant’s daughter wouldn’t be caught dead in that place. Not too long ago, I wouldn’t have been caught dead in a place like that. Shaking myself from my thoughts, I start to wander down the alley. I don’t know where I’m going, or who I can trust to help me. I don’t even know if I can trust anyone to not turn me into the guards. I’m sure that there will be a reward for my return. But I don’t plan on returning home anytime soon. I have important things to do, I remind myself. Walking down the alley, I remember that I saw an inventor’s shop in the main square of the town. Maybe they would have something that could help me with my mission. I turn and head back up the alley to where I entered. I will get nothing accomplished if I get lost wandering the alleys of this place. Making it back to the entrance to the alley, I peek out to check for guards. Seeing none I exit and start walking toward the center of town. I have to run into alleys many more times to avoid the guards that are looking for me. My stomach hurts from the amount of walking I have done today, and from the beating I got in the tavern. Finally, after hours of walking, I make it to the center of Harpersfield. Looking around, I don’t see the sign that I remember to be the one for the inventor’s shop. I don’t think I imagined it. I sigh, why must everything be so difficult? I start to search the square. It really is a lovely place. There is a marble fountain in the center, carved dragons spewing water from their mouths like it is fire. The basin is big enough for dozens of kids to play in on a hot summer day. The ceramic tiles under my feet make a beautiful mosaic of Harper Castle, the real castle looking down on it all from between the brick buildings that line the edge of the square. One day, I hope to walk through this square when the kingdom is under the rule of a different monarch. Hopefully, I will get that chance very soon. I stay in the shadows of the buildings as I circle the square, looking for the shop that I knew was there earlier. A building can’t just get up and walk away. Or so I thought before I came to a large hole in the buildings. A hole big enough to have housed another building. Of course, the inventor’s shop would be able to move. Or maybe the owner just liked to annoy potential customers. Now I’m going to have to walk all over Harpersfield to find the place. This was going to be a long day.
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2023.06.01 16:47 KaptainM4dness Hidden defect or my fault? [QC/CANADA]
I bought a used vehicle about a month ago (6 weeks) from a used car dealer. It's a 2009 Nissan Sentra with 112,000 kilometers (70k miles) on it. It had only one previous owner before me, and I was aware of some minor repairs that needed to be done. The overall condition of the car was not too concerning. In the first month, I only drove it about 600 kilometers (370 miles) and didn't use it much for no specific reason.
I took the car to my mechanic to get the known repair done, which the seller had informed me about. No big deal.
However, after inspection, the mechanic informed me that the top priority was to change the tires because they are 18 years old! They were manufactured in 2005, according to the serial number.
When I inspected the vehicle with the seller, the tires appeared to be in good condition visually, with a tread depth of 6/32.
However, the mechanic explained that it is very dangerous not because of the tire's current condition, but due to the age of the tire. Over time, the rubber can dry out and lead to tire failure.
The mechanic strongly recommended replacing the tires immediately.
He also mentioned that it is quite rare for people to check the age of a tire using the serial number, as most individuals rely on visual inspection to determine their condition.
My question is, is it entirely my fault or could this be considered a hidden defect that the seller failed to mention?
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2023.06.01 16:47 Sofnr [USA-IL] [H] Lots of comics. Some TPB's. Autographs. Flash. First Zoom. House of Mystery. 1st iZombie. Guardians of the Galaxy. Huge Mixed Lots. Luke Cage. Horrorist. Spawn. Witchblade. Sandman. Dark Shadows. Street Fighter. Avengers and more. [W]Paypal
Price includes shipping. All comics are bagged and boarded. Happy to take more pictures. Happy to put timestamp on any comic. Feel free to make offers.
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Flash 197-200. Blitz. First appearance and Origin of Zoom $55 https://imgur.com/a/DQxkOKv
House of Mystery Halloween Annual #1 1st iZombie DC Vertigo 2009 $15 https://imgur.com/a/jNf4VK7
Sandman Death The Time Of Your Life 1+3. Vertigo. 1996. Gaiman. $10 https://imgur.com/a/6nFp6aW
Guardians Of The Galaxy Arnett.Lanning 2009 Lot. 4,7,8,11,13. Secret Invasion.War of Kings. $15 https://imgur.com/a/W4zIDEy
Mixed Lot 50 Comics. Dark Shadows. Vampirella. Bone. Astro City. Rock N Roll Comics. $40https://imgur.com/a/052ko0q
Image Comics Lot Of 36. Spawn. I Kill Giants. Fathom. Darker Image. Maxx. More. $30 https://imgur.com/a/IVzpzAh
The Horrorist Graphic Novels. 1 &2. Vertigo Comics. DC. 1995. David Lloyd. VF-NM $15 https://imgur.com/a/A93RKgJ
Huge Mixed Lot Of 90 Marvel Comics. Many with bags/boards. Civil War. FF**.** $65 https://imgur.com/a/bLwdYrO
Huge Mixed Lot Of 90 Marvel Comics. Many with bags/boards. Xmen. Avengers. $65https://imgur.com/a/RjUc46z
Huge Mixed Lot Of 100 DC Comics. Most Bagged And Boarded. $60 https://imgur.com/a/o95RdZb
Huge Mixed Lot Of 100 DC Comics. Most Bagged And Boarded. $60 https://imgur.com/a/suNeqEn
Avengers Initiative Lot. 1, 10-29, 31, 34, + special. Secret Invasion. VF/NM $20 Imgur: The magic of the Internet
Sandman Mystery Theatre 62 + 63. DC-Vertigo. 1998. $14 https://imgur.com/a/QJSIlSY
Malibu Comics. Ultraverse. Lot Of 32 Comics. Prime. Rune. Solitaire. Night Man. $25https://imgur.com/a/Yy3amnT
Secret Invasion Lot Of 5. Marvel 2008. Sketch Cover. Bendis. TV Show. $12 https://imgur.com/a/8EW23oE
Dark Horse Comics Lot Of 22. Sin City. Buffy. Next Men. Dark Horse Insider. More $25 https://imgur.com/a/kPK9Hd8
Top Cow Comics Lot Of 14. Darkness. Witchblade. HunteKillers. VF/NM. $20 https://imgur.com/a/SG1aSVv
Hawkman (2002) Lot of 20 $17 https://imgur.com/a/kmJPC4D
Black Sun (2003) 1-6. All signed by Marc Andreyko. $30 https://imgur.com/a/7IJetb2
Testament #1-18. Near Complete Run. DC/Vertigo. 2005. $22 https://imgur.com/a/EuJrgPl
Tangent Comics Lot of 20. (1997) Supermans Reign. One Shots. $17 https://imgur.com/a/cXEv34p
John Byrne's Next Men Lot Of 10. Dark Horse. 1992. $15 https://imgur.com/a/DPXtciC
X-Force 1 &2. 4 Sealed Polybags. Reverse Negatives.2Deadpool. Shatterstar. Cable $25https://imgur.com/a/4UnIFZK
Superman Man Of Steel #17. DC 1992. 1st Cameo of Doomsday. $12 https://imgur.com/a/aEQE9UB
Powers Vol 1: 12-37. Vol 2: 1-23 $30 https://imgur.com/a/Rs16oGN
Black Sun (2003) 1-6. All signed by Marc Andreyko. $40 https://imgur.com/a/MuY37V7
Cage (1992) 1-6 $10 Imgur
Siege Lot. 13 Books. 1-4. Embedded 1, 3, 4. +Tie Ins. $16 Imgur
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2023.06.01 16:45 Long_Ad826 🙃
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2023.06.01 16:45 SchlesingerMindy323 [HIRING] 25 Jobs in FL Hiring Now!
Hey guys, here are some recent job openings in fl. Feel free to comment here or send me a private message if you have any questions, I'm at the community's disposal! If you encounter any problems with any of these job openings please let me know that I will modify the table accordingly. Thanks!
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2023.06.01 16:45 grahamradish What To Do This Weekend June 2 - 4
What To Do June 2-4
I’m no u/ItsMeDebie
-- just stepping in this week to help out
- June 2nd is National Donut Day; celebrate with a donut or four from your favorite shop or try someplace new from this ExperienceGR list
- Books and Mortar is open late with select books 30% off for First Fridays in East Hills. Other businesses have surprises and specials too. Participating businesses include: Brewery Vivant, Furniture City Creamery, The Green Well, Le Bon Macaron, Less Traveled, Commune, Global Infusion, and Nestology
- Yoga at The Highlands (Blandford Nature Center): Start your morning off with an outdoor yoga class by instructors from Mindful School of Yoga
- Take a class on Herbal Tea Gardening at Blandford Nature Center; pre-registration is required and open till 12pm Friday
- Blacksmith 101 at Blandford Nature Center; this is a four hour workshop including forge safety, tools, and fire building. Pre-registration is required and open till 12pm Friday
- There’s a huge multi-family yard sale happening in Heritage Hill on Saturday
- The 55th Annual Dyer-Ives Poetry Competition Reception is on June 3rd; enjoy poems read aloud by winners in each category
- Popular Pages Book Club is discussing “When We Rise” by Cleve Jones on June 3rd at the Main Library
- Dirty Donny Pop Up Art Bash at The Pyramid Scheme: A night of pinball, radical artwork, and high energy rock ‘n’ roll featuring legendary monster rockers ELECTRIC FRANKENSTEIN and rumors of free pizza
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2023.06.01 16:45 Independent-Lime-444 Had a long period now no period
Back in March I started my period on the usual time, March 20th and it was started like normal but… then never stopped. It lasted a total of 3 weeks. Saw an Ob/GYN and had the ultrasound where they insert a tool inside and search around. They saw no tumors or polyps or anything like that but by endo wall was thick. Now it was thick possibly because at the time I was taking a medication and can cause thickness. I stopped taking the medication and my period ended in 3 days. Now my period should have started at some point near the end of may but I’m not sure how messed up that long period made me because I still haven’t had a period. I THINK I may have had a little bit of spotting a week ago but it was so minimal I’m not sure if it even counted. Has anyone experienced anything like this?
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2023.06.01 16:45 AcroraL Culture and Animal Studies (18-40)
I am conducting a research for my dissertation to understand how your cultural upbringing may influence your bond with animals and experiencing their passing affects you. It'd be of great help if you could participate in my study. It would take only 10-15 minutes to complete this and all your information would be kept confidential. I could send you your results too if you'd like that. https://forms.gle/NycJAnBD5VNDEHq47
(-) You must be between the ages of 18-40 years.
(-) You must not currently have diagnosed active psychiatric illness condition (e.g., Major Depressive Disorder, Schizophrenia, Anxiety Disorders, etc).
(-) You have experienced or witnessed an animal death in your lifetime so far and it was at least a year ago.
All your information would be kept confidential. If you wish to withdraw at any point of time before submission, you can simply close the form. If you wish to withdraw after submission, you can message me and I would delete your record from the file.
Thank you! Ria Dutta MSc Clinical Psychology, National Forensic Sciences University, Gujarat.
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2023.06.01 16:45 DailyReplacement [VA] Harassment at Work
I'm going to try to keep this bizarre story short. My sister, "Alice", who left an abusive relationship and now is in the mental fetal position over weird, incessant harassment she has been getting from her ex, let's call "Jim". I'll give examples, but she is in VA and left CO (I'm still in CO) and the harassing parties are in CO, NY and TX.
My sister met a crazy, crazy-rich guy a few years ago. Alice never moved in but would spend more and more time visiting Jim in CO. He became more controlling and violent slowly over their relationship. Alice once made a joke that he might be trying to trap her in the state with all the incessant pressure he put on her - she still works in the DC area and won't move out of state officially because loves her job. Alice made many trips during COVID to live with him for extended periods of time, thankfully all the while keeping her apartment. She definitely got swept up in the financial benefits of this relationship, though it clearly affected her mental health - she kept pushing off long term commitment because of the behavior she was hiding from us (when she needed to go on work trips he would threaten to kill himself if she didn't come back, for example). She finally decided to leave him when one of his many country club acquaintances made a joke that she better be on birth control - which Alice found very unsettling as she was constantly "misplacing" it when she was living with Jim. She's confident he was moving or even removing these meds. Clearly that was the last red flag so she packs up to leave with all of her stuff - she decided to drive on her last trip to make it look very work-trip-related but as soon as she started putting things unannounced into the car, he went ballistic. The full saga unfolded with him slashing her tires while she was hiding in a closet calling 911. The police took him off in handcuffs and he went to jail, only to be immediately bailed by his sister. CO issues an immediate restraining order and gives my sister a few days to get everything out, now that she had no functioning car to drive home with. Despite this, he tries to contact her again, calling and even going to the house. He is rearrested. Fast forward through where the state gets tired of their money and delays for arraignment, throws out everything and he gets his file sealed. He stopped contacting me (which he also tried, blaming my sister completely) but now his sister is contacting me telling me that my sister is the source of all of his problems and if she just went back to him he'd be a different person. I've told them to never contact me again and I do not return their phone calls (from new numbers 1-2 times a week), but these people have gone on a harassment spree: my sister's work is now getting calls from fake numbers saying she's a danger to herself and concerned friends are trying to reach her; she is receiving calls from people impersonating police departments doing 'welfare' checks on family members that she cares about, like our elderly parents; she's getting calls that she needs to contact strange numbers for 'work projects' and all of these are going to her HR. Clearly these special-people with more time and money than sense won't stop and I have all kinds of feelings but unsure on legal protection. It's frequent enough to be clear this is a pattern. Any advice on how to stop the harassment would be appreciated.
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2023.06.01 16:44 Certain_Increase_391 Sou babaca por "trair" meu ficante?
Pra dar um pouco de contexto: mesmo ainda estando na fase de só ficar, eu (mulher de 18 anos) e ele (homem de 18 anos) já estamos bem sérios com o nosso relacionamento. Já falamos sobre namoro no futuro, eu já fui na casa dele, conheci a família dele e ele também conheceu a minha.
Umas semanas atrás, tivemos uma conversa onde ele me disse que, como não estamos namorando ainda, estaria tudo bem caso eu ficasse com outras pessoas, assim como estaria tudo bem se ele fizesse o mesmo. Pouco tempo depois, eu fui pra uma festa universitária e fiquei com outras pessoas. Não aconteceu nada fora isso, nem pegar Instagram, nem "coisas a mais" e nem ficar de casal com alguma pessoa específica, foi só beijo e tchau. Depois, ele me perguntou se eu fiquei com alguém lá, e como minha consciência tava tranquila por causa daquela conversa, eu respondi a verdade.
Agora, ele parou de falar que me ama e parou de me chamar pra sair. Quando eu perguntei o motivo, ele falou que se sente bobo por ter sido exclusivo meu e recusado algumas minas que queriam ficar com ele enquanto eu não estava sendo exclusiva dele. Felizmente, nós conversamos sobre e resolvemos a situação de forma madura, mas ainda tô com medo de ter sido babaca por "trair" ele. Perguntei pra alguns amigos e eles tem opiniões divididas. Então, sou babaca?
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2023.06.01 16:44 _MoslerMT900s I (24M) tried to join a club. Turns out it was full of boomers and old people. (+70 years old)
TLDR: I decided to enter a club, related to the arts, cinema and music. But it was full of elderly people. I felt too uncomfortable.
My social life is non-existent. I have never been able to create lasting friendships, especially with women. Last year I had to leave a lot of fake friends, also I tried going out with other groups several times a week in order to make close friends, but nothing worked. Each conversation was in groups and there were no opportunities for oneto one conversations, which made it impossible to make close friends.
This year I didn't have anyone to talk to and I'm pretty lonely right now. During the first weeks I was studying in the library. On Instagram I saw a publication about a club intended to discuss topics related to literature, cinema, theater, music and any artistic manifestation. Seeing the large number of "likes" from young people, I decided to join the club. As someone who loves movies and music, I had great expectations to meet this club. This group was going to be organized by a teacher, who was going to organize the dynamics.
When the day came I was pretty excited to get into the club. I did not see any person in the Hall, nor any type of indication about which room or floor the activity was going to take place. I asked the person in charge of lending the books, he didn't know either, so he decided to ask the head of the library. After 3 minutes of waiting, the guy guided me to the room, as soon as I entered the room I wanted to leave that place. All the members were elderly, there were no young people, nor were there women. The teacher was a man in his 90s who could barely move. I felt really uncomfortable. 30 minutes later, another young man of the same age would joins the club (24M). We were the only two young people, in front of a group of more than 16 boomers. The worst thing is that they didn't even talk about cinema, literature, music or the arts, the conversation was about a trip that one of the members took to a fairly remote part of the country. Worst of all, once the activity was over, they decided to take a group photo for the magazine. After that day I did not attend the club again. I felt like I wasted 90 minutes of my life. There were no images of the club, or anything to get an idea of how it was going to be. It seems the librarian was so desperate for young members that he decided to pretend this club was something it never was.
I felt like I lost interest in any non-college social event, because there's a good chance it would be full of boomers, Gen X, or young couples.
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2023.06.01 16:44 PANDADA Told my wife we need to separate a few days ago...
So this is going to be long as I feel it's always important to share the full background of our relationship and what we have been through together.
Me (39/f) and my wife (35/f) have been together for 16 years, married for nearly 10. We are an interracial couple as well, her mom (her dad was probably okay with us but just went along with mom) never liked me because I'm white (among other issues) and always threatened to disown my wife if she stayed with me. Eventually we got married though (her parents didn't come to the wedding) and over time her mom seems to tolerate me now.
After my wife's dad passed away suddenly in 2013 (two months after we got married - her mom told her it was her fault, that the stress she caused them by marrying me gave her dad a heart attack; of course that's not true though!), my wife went through an existential crisis and then told me she wanted to transition (she was presenting male at that point). She told me early on when we were dating that she liked to cross dress and I had asked her how deep it went, did she think she was transgender, etc. and she told me at that time that she had previously thought about it, but was okay living life as a boy. What she didn't share at that time though was that she was okay with it because she thought when she'd die that she'd be a girl in heaven because you can be anything you want in heaven. So when her dad died, she faced her own mortality (this was the first person she ever lost in life, so that's a really heavy one as a first 😞) and started questioning what if there's no heaven, etc and decided she better transition so she can live without any regrets. This all came out in early summer 2014 after months of her pulling away from me, suddenly telling me sex was disgusting (after having been very sexual previously), a switch was flipped, and she no longer wanted to have sex ever again. I had no clue what was happening and she kept refusing therapy, etc and I finally broke down one night and asked if she wanted to divorce and she said no, so then I asked WTF was going on and THEN she told me she had been thinking about transitioning for months.
Unfortunately I had a horrible knee jerk reaction from the shock and dealing with the previous other stuff on top of it and said we'd divorce if she did that. 😓 It was really hard on me for a while, and I was still trying to figure it all out, while she was going full speed ahead because she had been thinking about it for months, while it was still new info to me. So essentially I eventually finally stopped thinking "I don't want to be with a woman", and started thinking "can I be with her?" And my mind shifted and when I told her I wanted to stay, but then she told me she wanted to separate and didn't think she felt the same way about me anymore. She essentially pushed me away again because as she later explained it to me, she was already accepting it was over before. We separated, she was staying with her brother temporarily and I moved out of the apartment the day before our first wedding anniversary. We had everything separated and the only thing left to do was make it legal, so when I told her to start looking for a mediator, she asked if we could hold off so she could figure out what she really wanted. 😓 Of course that made me angry. So to wrap up this part of the story, eventually she agreed to do couples counseling, we worked things out, she explained that she got turned off by sex because she knew I only saw her as a man at the time (before I even knew she wanted to transition) and we got back together. I moved back in with her in early 2015, even had a second wedding and renewed our vows in 2018. So essentially ever since early 2015, things have been great. Very happy, no conflict between us at all. Not even during covid.
Then last year she told me she was was suddenly thinking about death again. It was keeping her up at night and consuming her. I have since found out that it actually started in 2020, but she didn't say anything to me about it until last year! She told me she didn't tell me because she didn't want to drag me down with her. I encouraged her to go back to therapy and she did. She started reading books about Buddhism and Taoism too. Then out of no where, in early March, she asked to talk and said she thinks she's bisexual and polyamorous now and then said she wanted to explore this with her two best friends. 😩 My heart immediately shattered. She sees these friends a lot, in fact they're really the only two friends she sees. She told me she has no idea if they even return her feelings or if their even interested in poly relationships at all. They're both cis hetero men and they know she's trans. She also works with one of them. She actually worked with both of them, that's how she met them, but the friend she feels closest to just left the company a few months ago. She said she also knows it's a risk she might lose them as friends too, but just feels like she has to try. I asked her if she'd actively seek other partners if they turned her down and she said no.
This all came out while she's been dealing with her extreme fear of death. She's recently started seeing a new therapist for possible existential OCD. She and I both believe she has ADHD as well, symptoms definitely add up now that I've heard from friends/read more about it, but she hasn't sought to get an actual diagnosis yet. But essentially she told me, she was feeling this void in life (but I guess if you're so consumed by fear of death that it's likely you might feel a void in life?) and now all her views on life has changed - she no longer sees the world as black and white, she has let go of all boundaries and barriers and has let go of all attachments (this seems to be a Buddhism thing?). Her purpose now is to spread joy to people and make sure the people she loves are happy and fulfilled. She basically said she thought about a Chinese drama show she watched as a kid that involved a man having multiple wives, and a love and sex class in college that discused poly - why do we even have rules in life, etc and that "poly isn't bad" and "love isn't a bad thing". Her previous therapist asked her if she had anyone in mind to explore this with, she said she didn't. So then she intentionally thought who would she even explore this with (before saying anything to me), and then landed on these two friends because she "doesn't know anyone else". And then suddenly, poof she has romantic feelings for them? 😵💫 She has such strong feelings that exploring polyamory was the solution to her void, her focus is all on deepening connections with people now (except for me I guess?).
Essentially I'm 100% not okay with this and very monogamous and I've made it clear that if she HAS to explore this, we will have to divorce because I'll be miserable. I'm absolutely devastated after everything we've been through together and marrying twice, but I know I can't force her to stay either and she certainly can't force me to be okay with polyamory. She agreed to stop talking to these two friends while we tried to figure everything out so she hasn't even spoken to them since late March. She can't even say if she still has feelings for them right now since "she hasn't spoken to them for a while". She has been saying she wants to stay together, but because she had such strong feelings about this when she landed on it in her head, she's worried it'll resurface in the future. I just feel like there's multiple things going on and I had asked her weeks ago, what is her concern about not getting to explore polyamory and she literally said "it comes back to my issue with death". She's apparently accepted she's going to die, it's inevitable, but she's atheist now and believes there's nothing after death so if there's no memories or anything, then it's about what can she do with the one life she has to live? She said she wants to be able to experience and do everything she thinks she wants to try so she can look back on her life on her deathbed and say "at least I tried everything". This all comes across as a coping mechanism to me. 😞 But maybe I'm wrong and just in denial? Our couples counselor asked her if she feels stifled in our marriage and she said no. She confirmed she's 100% happy with me, there's nothing missing in our relationship, and there's nothing I need to do better, I do everything great. I just can't understand the mindset to throw away something you're 100% happy with, just to try something else. She even admitted she knows it might not work out, she may lose her friends, polyamory may not be what she thinks it is, but she just feels like she needs to TRY since she's so fixated on how she'll feel on her death bed in the future - and not trying something in her mind means she'll have regret at the end of her life and she wants to avoid that at all costs.
I know she doesn't want to lose me and says she wants to stay, but it's really hard for me to try to rebuild trust and she said she's lost faith in herself to commit again because of what's happened, she's worried she could be fine for another 5, 10+ years and then suddenly it might resurface that she has to explore poly.
Btw, she also did barely any research about polyamory before deciding she wanted to explore it and told me about it. So her decision/action was all based on what she's imagined in her head. It comes across as a coping mechanism to me about her issue with death and trying to make it "okay", but maybe I'm in denial? I'm 2014 she had started to drink and even tried vaping (she never smoked before) to try to cope with her discomfort. When I asked her to separate, I reminded her of that she asked if she has even considered this might be a coping mechanism and she said "maybe..." so I just told her she should probably explore that in therapy then.
She also told me that in order for her to consider other romantic relationships, it MUST be a deep connection in friendship first before she would try to make it romantic (but that's not even how we got together). So that just seemed odd to me, because if you start off platonic for a while anyway, there's no guarantee the other person will just magically develop feelings? And like you're going to intentionally try to make friends with poly people and tell them it needs to be platonic until she feels a deep connection, then she might consider making it romantic? 😵💫
So on Sunday night, I just told her I can't do this anymore. I can't sit here being lovey-dovey, saying I love you, making travel plans in the future like everything is fine. I told her I feel like I'm sitting here watching her stand in a doorway with one foot in and one foot out of our marriage and that she could leave at any moment. She's paralyzed, doesn't want to lose me because she IS very happy with me, but can't let go of the idea of exploring polyamory because then she's worried how she'll feel on her death bed the she didn't try it.
Btw, I don't think poly is inherently bad/wrong, it's just not something I want and my needs won't be met in the relationship. I even told her she may realize HER needs may no longer be met in the poly dynamic. I told her that our relationship is pretty conflict free (outside her existential crisises) and I don't want to throw a wrench into that by inviting possible conflict from her other relationships and how that could impact ours. It just seems too risky and I don't to deal with it. I've also spoken with poly friends on social media who have also gone through really horrible experiences, and I even met a woman last night who is going through divorce because she and her husband opened their relationship and it went horribly, her husband lied/cheated and now they're divorcing. She was the one who was curious about it too and said she's never doing it again.
Anyway, that's my story. I'm trying to focus on me now, in therapy and trying to deal with all the trauma. Trying to make new friends and fill up my time so I'm not sitting at home dwelling on it. It's definitely really hard to just move forward without the person I've been with for 16 years though and thought we'd be together forever, especially after everything we went through before. But while it's hard to imagine a future without her, it's also hard to imagine a future with her like this. 😞💔 Just trying to take it one day at a time right now. I'm going to go visit my aunt for a week on Saturday, so I'm looking forward to that.
Sending support and sympathy to everyone going through this. 💖
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2023.06.01 16:42 Dangerous-Bag-7327 [HIRING] 20 Jobs in Indianapolis Hiring Now!
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2023.06.01 16:42 billerspinholds30 How are we feeling about $AGBA?
How’s it going everyone? I’ve been seeing a lot of buzz on AGBA on Reddit and Stocktwits the last couple weeks so I put them on my list of companies to check out. Had a little bit of extra time this morning so I decided I’d see what I could find on these guys. Got to their Yahoo page premarket to see that they were up 17% on the day already which is pretty cracked lmao. I also saw that they had released their 2023 Q1 results in the last couple of weeks so I thought I’d go over them and make a post on it to see if I could get anymore insight on how other ppl are viewing them/how they feel about them.
Revenue for Q1 2023 of USD$11.1m, up 533% on the same period in 2022
- 533% increase compared to last years Q1 is pretty insane so we can only hope that level of growth can continue
In March 2023 they recorded the highest level of new business applications in the past three years
- This seems like a really good sign for them. From what I read the Hong Kong and China economy is supposed to rebound a bit in the coming months with Hong Kong finally allowing mainlanders back in
In AGBA’s Platform Business, the Group onboarded 10 new insurance partners and released more than 170 new insurance and investment products
- This increasing their offering of financial products to over 2,000 in total
In April they mentioned that they’re continuing to expand their international business by acquiring Sony Life Financial Advisers Pte Ltd, a licensed financial adviser and insurance broker in Singapore
- Good sign as they continue to expand their business into other areas of the world
- Not sure how much this does for them but it is still good to see that they’re increasing their international presence
I like what I’m seeing in the PR and ofc I love to see their stock going up today but how do we really feel about them? I’m feeling bullish on them based on what I’m seeing but I could for sure use some more insight into them and some more opinions on them. I can easily see them continuing this trend they’re on with China and Hong Kong nearing an economic rebound. But yeah pls let me know what yall think about them! Q1 2023 Results
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2023.06.01 16:41 ineedfood2023 23M looking for long term friends
Hello there fellow redditors, I’m 23 years old guy from India looking for friends all around the world to know about their experiences and culture. Things I like • exploring new music • exploring different cuisines • recently started reading books and it’s amazing • would love to see the northern lights in person • memes(who doesn’t like to be spammed with memes?) • I like to spot cars Please be around my age 18-23 to hit me up
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2023.06.01 16:41 XerinthF Looking for career advice and ideas
Hey! I'm looking for some kind individuals willing to give some career advice, ideas, and their opinions on what direction I could move towards.
I'm 30, and currently just working a call center job providing medical transportation for patients. I've mostly worked in small-scale companies, the largest being a payday loan company where I worked IT at their corporate office years ago.
I'm going to be honest, I don't have a degree, I don't even have a year of college under my belt. Financially, I'm in a very rough spot, and while I'd love to eventually make the big bucks, I'm just looking to get started and get my life on track.
My ideal job would be a remote job where I'm just given spreadsheets and such to work on, not taking constant phone calls and where I can't step away for a couple minutes every now and then. I'm extremely good with numbers, I have dealt with payments to a small extent, but overall I have little experience.
Even starting at something like 40-45k a year would be awesome to me. I'm fine with going through school on off hours to eventually move beyond that, but I'm just looking to get started with something to make a livable wage.
I'd love to get into accounting, finances, etc, but I know very little about the process as far as how to get started, and the process involved in the daily life of an accountant. Treat me as if I'm an 18 year old kid that knows literally nothing about the world, basically.
I'd love to get advice on how to get hired at even an entry level job, and eventually once I reach an associates or bachelors then move into something bigger and better. I know this doesn't count for much when looking at a list of resumes and who to interview/hire, but I know if I'm given a couple of months to experience it and figure it out I'd do fine. I'm not going to be an expert by any means, I understand things like this are a constant-improvement situation.
If you believe based on this information that I'd be better suited in something beyond accounting I'd love to hear your opinion and suggestions, I'm open to it all, but as I said I do think a remote job managing numbers and spreadsheets, etc would be my dream career.
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2023.06.01 16:41 West_Finding_2834 Faites vous votre âge ?
F29 (30 very soon), je suis actuellement en stage dans le cadre de ma reconversion en développement web. Je travaille au sein d'un environnement à 99% masculin : je suis à l'armée. Seule la secrétaire (qui est ma belle mère, merci le piston) est une femme. Elle m'a confié en rigolant ce midi que tous les hommes ici pensent que j'ai 18 ans, personne ne me donne plus de la vingtaine.
Je suis déjà d'un naturel timide, toujours peur de dire une connerie, d'être decredibilisee. Je peux vite rougir, je manque clairement de confiance.
Je sais que je fais pas mon âge, on m'a souvent dit 24 ou 25, mais j'avoue que là 18 /20 ça me met un coup. Je sais pas pourquoi mais ça me met dans une situation où je sais que quand je m'adresse à un militaire, il se dit que je suis une gamine et j'ai l'impression de perdre encore plus de crédibilité.
Est ce que d'autres personnes vivent ou ont vécu cela ?
*Je m'adresse principalement aux femmes, parce que les deux autres stagiaires de 18 ans qui sont avec moi et sont des hommes, à eux on leur parle comme à des adultes, plus qu'à moi j'ai l'impression. Mais si des hommes vivent pareil et veulent donner leur ressenti, pourquoi pas.
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